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Monday, November 06, 2006 Is More Really Merrier? elana's thoughts on polygamous relationships  I spent a year in a polygamous relationship. Even though I learned a lot about myself, adored my submissive brother, and felt complete in my service to our Owner~ I have no desire to return to that lifestyle. However these are my thoughts from that experience.Poly-relationships are hard work. Not only does the primary two people require a solid immovable no-doubts-allowed relationship, but every additional person must put that primary couple before any of his/her own needs. Everyone in the relationship must have a common unshakable goal, in our case it was pleasing our Owner. Nothing in my relationship with our Owner could have any form of backlash in his relationship with Her. The moment that any supplementary relationship with Her caused problems with the him, She was willing to sacrifice the additional submissives to save the primary. That was Her level of commitment to the primary relationship. That was my level of commitment to the primary relationship. That was my commitment to Her, because I knew that he was Her primary. Period.  Some say that it is the ‘owners choice’ of who to release and who to keep, but I don’t feel that a poly relationship could survive such games of relationship roulette. In my experience, he knew he was secure with Her, which eliminated any jealousy he may have had for any of us additional submissives. Also, the Owner must have the ability to not only meet the needs of the primary submissive but also all additional submissives brought into the relationship. It is unacceptable to expect the submissives to take care of themselves while the Owner frolics through His or Her house of nakedness. That may be fine for fantasy, but I am talking about realistic 24/7 polygamous relationships. I know that sounds like a lot of work, but, adding people to one’s household means more work. At the time, I was in a place where I did not feel I could fully submit to an Owner, even though I wished to learn more of the ‘lifestyle’. That is why I agreed to a poly-relationship, plus I felt safe to explore without being judged for needing ‘vanilla time’. Later, I was taught that I could be owned completely, living each moment with only Her service in my mind. But that is for a different post. The point is, that at that point in my life, a polygamous relationship was the best choice for me. I do not wish to return to a poly-relationship at this time in my life. I can’t say that I will never again enter a polygamous relationship, but I do know it will take a very patient Man to guide me through my fears, resentments, and pains. I’m not sure I will be able to embrace the thought of a brother or sister, or the thought of sharing His attentions. I have learned throughout the years that I can be a very greedy girl at times, wanting Him all to herself. Who knows, in fifteen or twenty years I am be more willing to discuss the possibility of bringing another submissive into my relationship, but I without a doubt I must have that solid unshakable no-questions-no-doubts deep true and genuine trusting loving and supportive primary relationship. Labels: thoughts on D/s or M/s  
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