Monday, October 23, 2006



Control

If its something I want, why do I fight it?

There is no better feeling than to be in the control of Another. Its as if, the weight of his leash is a comforting reminder of my position as His. His pet, His girl, His to control. Even though there are times that it feels amazing, there are still times when my feet dig in a little bit, almost stubbornly curious at what will happen next. The only way I can think of to explain what it is like, for me anyway, is the following example.


A man gets a new puppy. The puppy is timid at first, but he is patient and gentle when he clicks on the leash and take the puppy outside. At first, the puppy is still unsure of this man, so she stays close and almost up under his feet. However, as the puppy gains familiarity with the man, and him with her, she grows braver. At first, the puppy begins to explore the circle around the man during the walks. Each time going a little further out until the leash is pulled taunt. Eventually, if the man allows, the puppy will begin to drag him along the walk, and in turn begins walking him. Yes it is a little aggrivating for the man to have to teach the puppy to walk with him, allowing him to set the pace and lead. But, if the man wants a pet he can guide and teach, maintaining control on the leash is the very first step.

Yes I understand that testing that control is natural, and necessary to the relationship, but... I hate feeling like I am fighting it. Some would say "then just stop fighting it, elana" but its not that easy. Its not that easy...

The same is true with that emotional/mental/sexual leash, or however you want to describe the bond between Man and woman as they enter and maintain a power exchange relationship...

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