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Wednesday, April 18, 2007 What is my life if I am no longer useful to others. ~Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe This is something that has haunted me for a long time... I've always known that my purpose was to serve, help others, and do what I can to make things easier/better for other people. I have selected the group that I work with, devoting my time to those who needs my help. Even before I found M/s, I believed that I was to help others and be a supporter of those that need me. I was brought up in a small town Baptist family, my Dad was a Deacon and my Mom did Ladies Prayer Band and Children's Church. My family taught me to help serve the community with them. So when I found D/s it naturally fit. However... my body is screaming at me to slow down, take time, and be nice to myself. I understand that I will not always be able to do the things that I do now, work these hours, volunteer with this many organizations, take on the weight of my world (and my friends) and be fiercely independent in it. So where does that leave me? Topic provided by Kindlings Labels: Journal Prompts, quotes, thoughts on D/s or M/s  
 Wednesday, April 04, 2007 Do D/s relationships tend to develop more quickly than vanilla relationships? Is it just a perception or is there something to this? This is something I have written about before, something I have given a lot of thought about. I think that a major reason that D/s relationships appear to move more quickly is that the physical needs are addressed much quicker than in a vanilla relationship. I will not say that people tend to be more upfront because not everyone is honest about his/her needs/wants in either situation. I think a reason that both people are more willing to "rush into" the physical side of things quicker than either would in a vanilla relationship is because having a like-minded view on things help one feel connected to the other, and that causes a certain amount of 'instant trust'. Especially after limits and safe words have been established. Safe calls set up before hand can also help both people feel more comfortable with taking things a bit quicker. Personally, I need time in any relationship to establish trust and want to take things to a more physical level. Just because someone 'claims' to be dominant doesn't mean that he/she has your best interest in heart. Then again, I have not had the best of luck in that department. :) So maybe it is my fear talking again. I just... part of me wishes that it was "normal" for things to move a bit slower -- not just physically but emotionally also. Although with all of the new people discovering power exchange online (like its a form of sexual monopoly) the new guys I meet think by demanding an instant blowjob they are "proving their dominance" or some crap like that. Plus its always easy for them to move along to someone else who will give them that blowjob once I refuse. So why take the time to get to know the girl? Then again, if that is all the guy is out for, I'm not interested in them anyway :) What makes that funny is that it is their policy, but in reverse. I don't like guys who come on strong because guys who come on fast and strong tend to fizzle out quickly. After a day or two, its like the guy can't keep up the farce and I'm left wondering what happened. *Topic provided by Sensual Service. For more about this topic, read this essay. I agree with what it says and like how she worded it. Labels: Journal Prompts, thoughts on D/s or M/s
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